There are so many people in our world that suffer the effects of low Self-confidence and low Self-esteem.
We talk a lot about this self-confidence and self-esteem. What does that mean exactly and how can you start to redevelop yourself to feel empowered, strong, resilient and confident?
A person with low Self-esteem feels unworthy, incapable, and incompetent and this is connected to low self-confidence.1
Renowned psychologist Albert Bandura defined Self-confidence as a “belief in one’s ability to succeed in specific situations or accomplish a task”. It reflects a person’s overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It is a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude toward the self. Self-confidence is how you feel about your abilities, and this can vary from situation to situation. You may have healthy self-esteem, but little confidence about certain settings.
To be self-confident is to be secure in yourself and your abilities. It is a feeling of trust in your abilities, qualities, and judgement. It describes an internal state that is made up of what we think and feel about ourselves. To be self-confident is to be secure in yourself and your abilities. It is recognising your strengths and any weakness. It is viewing yourself with balance.
Many times we can feel a plummet in our self-confidence or abilities, especially if we are attempting something new. It becomes a problem for us when we continually believe we can not do anything adequately. We have an expectation of failure and along with this expectation comes a feeling of worthlessness. This is then what we create.
Do you expect yourself to be perfect, do you have a belief you should be better? And while some of us may have this expectation, I wonder if this is real or is it a way to plunge yourself downward and justify your reaction.
Low self-confidence or low self-esteem can develop in childhood and continue throughout adulthood, causing great emotional pain. Perhaps there was someone that would tell you that you were not good enough or worthy. It is usually the result of these person’s problems they reflect onto others, and perhaps you were the convenient target. This is sad of course, but none the less it doesn’t mean their words are true. They may have simply been a nasty, mean or miserable person deflecting on to you.
I always state that we need to look at the reason behind any behaviour; there is always a reason. If the person that may have initiated your lack of self-confidence was a narcissistic or tortured soul, feel sorry for them but stop allowing their unkind mendacious words penetrate into you any longer.
Take a look at yourself. See the person you truly are. Perhaps not perfect, as of course, we know none of us is. If you are a good person, a kind person, someone who works hard by trying to be the best person you can be for yourself or others, then you are doing a magnificent job.
If there is something about yourself you do not like, take steps to make the adjustments and change that. The power remains yours, and while sometimes we feel overwhelmed, we all have the ability to step up, take charge and change.
Positive affirmations or self-talk can be very powerful. The trick is to avoid saying what you don’t want and change it into something you do want. When we rehearse the negative, we remain stuck there. If you say “I don’t want to feel bad about myself today” or “I won’t stuff up” there is a good chance you will both feel bad about yourself and stuff up.
What we need to do is remove ourself from where we are currently stuck and project ourself into a new position we strive to be in or become. Using affirmations such as “I will smile at everyone today” or “I will stand tall, speak clearly and believe in myself” gravitates us to do exactly this. We remove ourself from the stuck state and travel forward into another more confident state. The more we practice and do this, the more normal and habitual it becomes. This then becomes our new first go-to thought and behaviour.
Of course, it isn’t quite that easy. This is why we developed the Self-confidence session. This session relaxes your body and mind before affirming positive suggestions into the subconscious mind. The following saying is so accurate, and when we know how to make this change, the rest is easy.
“What the Mind Believes, the Body Responds to”
The Self-confidence session takes you on a journey to regain your sense of self, allows you to feel worthy and capable. Once these suggestions are embedded, you can start to live that way again, or perhaps for the first confident time.
It is time to Stop feeling inadequate about yourself. The only person creating this is you. You are creating these thoughts that are debilitating you. Surely it is time to step up, relax and do the session to help rebuild your feelings of self-worth and self-confidence.
Steps to improve low self-confidence
1. Positive self-talk
2. Don’t compare yourself to others; we are all individual and different
3. Exercise or move more to release our feel good hormones
4. Don’t strive for perfection; no one is perfect
5. Don’t beat yourself up when you make a mistake as these are an
opportunity to learn
6. Focus on the things you can change
7. Do things that you enjoy
8. Celebrate the small achievements
9. Focus on your positives, one at a time
10. Take care of yourself, self-care is essential
11. Avoid the negative self-talk
12. Take positive actions to redevelop your self-confidence – and you can
Self-confidence and self-esteem is how you feel about yourself as a person. Those with high self-esteem believe they are adequate, stable and worthy of a good life.
Self-confidence is the belief you can and will do your best, and if that best isn’t enough, that’s Ok, learn and try again.
• Surrounding yourself with confident, positive people is essential
• Consider joining groups that promote these feelings
• Use positive affirmations throughout your day
• Avoid drugs and minimize alcohol
• Use auditory stimulation to relax your mind and create a sense of
Undertaking the audio Self-Confidence session enables the mind to relax and rebuild. Do it for yourself now…